This week has been a pleasantly surprising week. You know those weeks when things work out easier then expected, when support is there and you notice it, when you are given heartfelt compliments out of the blue. Even my Illustration Friday challenge ended up flowing smoothly. The topic this week was “Journey” and a quote came with it,
“Focus on the Journey, not on the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” Greg Anderson
I was familiar with the beginning of that quote, it’s a concept that sometimes I have to remind myself of, how vital and important it is to enjoy this moment, this one right here, that we have been given. Treasure those “stopping to smell the flowers” moments. They are the things memories are made of, and sometimes they are the things that get you through the ‘really-truly-this-sucks-and-we-just-have-to-ride-it-out” times in life.
The second part of the quote really resonated with me too. It is how I feel about my art, my writing and yes, even my parenting. The joy of actually doing it far out weights the satisfaction of completing it. Though there is some satisfaction to be had in completing something, but I find it is mainly the satisfaction of having ‘proof’ that I had done it. That I had stopped talking about doing something, and was in fact just doing it. Young children and babies are masters at demanding you live in the moment. Before you know it, you have spent a whole afternoon rolling around the lounge room floor with a baby just starting to explore its world. Or your 2 year old daughter has slowed your walk home in the Autumn sun, to a crawl because she wants to pick all the beautiful daisies for you along the way.
After brainstorming the topic for a few days this week, I started sketching from a photo I had taken of my daughter in amongst the flowers of our garden. It was around the time I had first started my blog and she had helped me take photos of all the pretty flowers we could find in the garden, so then of course I had to take photos of her. So she posed for me. Looking a little like a flower garden fairy. Sketching the photo and working on it a bit further reminded how my ‘journey’ has changed and detoured a fair bit from the ‘destination’ I was working towards at 20 after finishing my Bachelor degree. I have recently started to seriously think about going back to University for a postgrad degree and that has made me really recognize how much I have gained from this journey with these beautiful children. That the joy of being in this life with them has brought me so much perceptive. And unexpected strength. It hasn’t been easy at times, sometimes for a long time, but looking back now its those lovely little moments were I was just enjoying that journey and being with them, that I remember most. The time my son could and would say Mum again, the giggle of joy and mischievousness as we played tickle games for hours. It surprises me even now that they are the things that leap to mind when I think of my journey so far with my kids, even though we are still mired in the quest for answers healthwise for my son, its the fact that he wants to play chasey for hours that I choose to focus on. Because at the end of the day, that is what is important to me.